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introspective1 · 04-27-2008, 03:39 AM

I feel like all the friendships that I am in, I have to be the one to initiate at least 80-90% of the contact. I am so sick of this. I cannot tell who is actually "too busy" to contact me and who is not. sometimes when I send texts/e-mails/ims/whatever to certain friends to ask how they are doing, they say they are ok or whatever but dont ask me how I am in return, but other times they do ask (weird). Its so hard to communicate nowadays, almost EVERYONE claims they dont like to talk on the phone, so they dont call anyone first (I think thats just a cop-out). Well, how are people supposed to develop meaningful, closer friendships? You can only say so much by e-mail or text and it is not as personal as over the phone communication. I am just tired of people playing games. If you dont wanna be friends, just dont return my calls or texts at all, dont be sometimey about it and one minute you pretend you care about me but then the next you really dont give a ****. Then I will befriend someone through Myspace, Facebook, or some other site and we will communicate for a while and all of a sudden they just stop returning messages. I try to send messages twice or call people twice when I dont hear from them but after that I say the hell with them. Maybe that is wrong but I am not going to chase people down and make them communicate with me. No reason for that type of crap. Sometimes when I tell my friends about something going on in my life (over the phone), I just dont hear the enthusiasm that they care even though they may say, "oh thats great you got a job interview" or "man, that sucks that somebody dissed you at work". I dont know what to do. i am so fed up with people and the way they are, that I dont know if I can invite new people into my life. Seems like people only befriend you when they want something or if you can get them a deal.

*tries to calm down*

Whew...what do you guys think? do you find that most people are just too busy to form real friendships? am I giving people too many chances? other thoughts?...

04-27-2008, 03:39 AM	#1 (permalink)
introspective1 Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 93	Burnt out on the concept of friendship I feel like all the friendships that I am in, I have to be the one to initiate at least 80-90% of the contact. I am so sick of this. I cannot tell who is actually "too busy" to contact me and who is not. sometimes when I send texts/e-mails/ims/whatever to certain friends to ask how they are doing, they say they are ok or whatever but dont ask me how I am in return, but other times they do ask (weird). Its so hard to communicate nowadays, almost EVERYONE claims they dont like to talk on the phone, so they dont call anyone first (I think thats just a cop-out). Well, how are people supposed to develop meaningful, closer friendships? You can only say so much by e-mail or text and it is not as personal as over the phone communication. I am just tired of people playing games. If you dont wanna be friends, just dont return my calls or texts at all, dont be sometimey about it and one minute you pretend you care about me but then the next you really dont give a ***. Then I will befriend someone through Myspace, Facebook, or some other site and we will communicate for a while and all of a sudden they just stop returning messages. I try to send messages twice or call people twice when I dont hear from them but after that I say the hell with them. Maybe that is wrong but I am not going to chase people down and make them communicate with me. No reason for that type of crap. Sometimes when I tell my friends about something going on in my life (over the phone), I just dont hear the enthusiasm that they care even though they may say, "oh thats great you got a job interview" or "man, that sucks that somebody dissed you at work". I dont know what to do. i am so fed up with people and the way they are, that I dont know if I can invite new people into my life. Seems like people only befriend you when they want something or if you can get them a deal. tries to calm down* Whew...what do you guys think? do you find that most people are just too busy to form real friendships? am I giving people too many chances? other thoughts?...