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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  I agree. I think my issue then becomes how do I clear up the terms after operating in one way so long. I guess I am afraid of what will happen when I do.
And what is LOLa?? |
By being straight with people. Make a choice each time. Either give (buy dinner and practice letting go of feeling "owed") or transact (say, "I'll get this one; you can buy next time, okay?"). If it's a transaction, hold the person accountable: next time she suggests dinner, pipe up right away with, "it's your turn to pay this time, Brunhilda." So she can choose a place she can afford. Practice letting go of any resentment about paying for the more expensive meal; it's about being together, not about the value of the dinner.
LOLa means
Lots of Love
angela
(I got lazy)