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Originally Posted by theknightwhosaysni-NI  Hello Amadeus,
Here is how I read your post :
You believe that you will be seen as a "deadbeat dad" when in reality the person who is "guilty" in this case is your wife. She is the one who's leaving, she is the one who did not keep her commitment.
All you are doing is be a loving husband so it is very unfair that she leaves you and you will be the one seen as a deadbeat dad.
Is this what you think ?
Well thinking this way will not help you. I think that with such a mindset it's normal that your wife leaves you, and she is very courageous to do so.
Making her feel guilty will not help at all !
Making your wife attracted to you is part of your function as a husband.
If she feels bad around you why the hell would she want to stay near you.
You think that because she leaves you she should feel bad, I see it the other way round actually : it's because she feels bad near you that she leaves you.
Seeing you as a victim from your wife is a way to communicate to her :"You should feel guilty about your emotions". How can she feel guilty about what she feels?
That said, I think that it is possible to make your wife attracted to you again but that would require more work on your side than on hers.
That's what I read in your post...sorry if it sounds harsh just take it as a personal opinion.
All the best to you |
You are cold and rude. You don't know Amadeus's situation nor his wife. He is upset that his wife is leaving him and you are being harsh? Its job to keep her? This is a very very unhealthy statement...
Why don't you ask Amadeus if he asked her to go to counciling and see if she was willing to or not?
You really should apologize to Amadeus.