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Originally Posted by Dannyboy1  If they don't like it, they don't have to hang out with me. |
You may have inadvertantly hit on something there. I wonder sometimes if certain people would continue to spend time with me were it not for what they can expect to get out of it. That does feel crummy, but I am not sure what to do about it.
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Originally Posted by The Cloud The difference is that in one situation you want to give, and in the other you don't. You have no obligation for consistency, especially in helping people. Plus, while you may not consciously recognize it, behind the scenes you may be taking numerous factors into consideration which add up to you wanting to help only when it is beneficial. In fact, it may be ultimately destructive to both yourself and/or the recipient of your aid for you to help in some situations. So give willingly, but withhold with the same resolve. |
I am not sure if you polarize one way or the other, but I wonder how this would fit in with Lightworker status? I see the logic in what you are saying, but would Lightworker withhold? I understand s/he would commit to service of the greater good, but how can one really know what would serve the greater good more, giving or withholding?
I find it hard to say no even when I want to.