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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  If in one situation I pay for a friend's meal without giving it a second thought and in another I pay but feel taken for granted, what is the difference? |
The difference is that in one situation you want to give, and in the other you don't. You have no obligation for consistency, especially in helping people. Plus, while you may not consciously recognize it, behind the scenes you may be taking numerous factors into consideration which add up to you wanting to help only when it is beneficial. In fact, it may be ultimately destructive to both yourself and/or the recipient of your aid for you to help in some situations. So give willingly, but withhold with the same resolve.