[Dannyboy1]

I'm not a hugely religious man, but the phrase "Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil" comes to mind. It's a very simple solution really. You obviously don't want to leave your wife and you don't want to hurt her, so... remove the temptation. Explain it to the girl at work (in a very public place) that she's a wonderful person, but you believe the flirting has gone too far and it has to end. You want to stop feeling for this women, then have her help you out. Don't tell her you have feelings for her because that would just invite more temptation. Just tell her you need to stop flirting with her because it's innapropriate. It's your choice to allow the temptation to continue. I'm not trying to push monogamy or morals, but if you want your relationship with your wife to survive, make no mistake. You are the one who is allowing this to go on. You are the one who is letting himself be tempted. You can't continue this way and expect to be happy. It's only going to get worse if you allow the flirting to continue. Once you have that simple conversation with her, she'll probably make it very easy to not flirt. The feelings will fade and you will be fine. If she doesn't, you may have to be abrasive to make her see you're serious. Or, have you're wife meet you at work right in front of this girl and take your wife out to lunch. Either way, if you don't want to hurt your wife and have a great relationship and you continue to flirt... Let's face it. You're making yourself a victim and asking us to help. Pretty ridiculous. Don't lie to yourself about it. You know the way out. Stop allowing yourself to be tempted. Join a softball team if you have to distract yourself.