A lot of my mates are still (5 years after school) drinking heavily (which isn't such a bad thing but it's not where I want to put my money, or my health - mental or physical), smoking and partying (fun
)... and that is all they seem to do with their lives. All of which I find pointless. And the thing is that they aren't happy.. but they won't change. Not yet anyway.
The easiest way I find to get around the fact that they are opposite to all that I want to be is just to see them as little as I can so as to not brought down by them but as much as to still stay connected. It's a fine line and it sometimes wears thin but I can't bear to be influenced and 'let down' by them anymore so I do what I do.
It's a decision you have to make.
Either they accept you for who you are and they for who you are and that's that.
Or you:
- be like 'them'
- pretend to be like them (mask)
- see less of them (me)
- cut yourself off from them and move on
You just have to make the decision that's right for you. I would almost cut myself off entirely but they are good friends who I have a long history with and who I value and besides without them I truly would be alone in the world (besides family and work colleagues (but that's work!)).
School is difficult though.. I'd just suggest the mask. It's hard to be alone at school (not that I'd know much but still..) so you don't really want to alienate yourself... but I guess it can be just as hard when you think that the people around you are all idiots..
