Originally Posted by Nani
NickW, in my case I want to change my brother in his smoking habits because it's unhealthy. There's no benefit at all to smoking and he knows that, and he's expressed a desire to quit but just can't seem to do it. I'm not annoying him about it or forcing him to quit because I recognize it is his decision through and through, which is why this indirect approach of working on yourself and seeing others change accordingly appealed to me.
Oh, OK....just semantic confusion. To me, this isn't "changing others;" it's offerring someone help and support in kicking a bad habit.
Not much more you can do. People choose their destinies. You can only do so much for someone.