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Originally Posted by The Cloud  Now TravisBickle is going to be stuck trying to be independent so that he can get fine babes to please and squeeze him, which isn't independence at all! |
It's a quandary, isn't it?
TravisBickle (are you talkin' to ME?) is in a great spot to learn the value of light-hearted fun with the opposite sex, the fun of experimenting with ways of being and finding out what's in the hearts of women (not to mention some other spots on them). At age 21, I don't think you have to worry too much about the anxiety you feel about being around attractive people, especially if you can reframe it as excitement or enthusiasm. You can transform it with deliberate thought.
But loneliness -- that's another story. Women can smell loneliness a mile away. Although there are some women who feel tender towards lonely men, in general, it's a great thing to practice letting go and generating something that works better
before you put yourself in the arena. I highly recommend the Landmark Forum for getting over social anxiety and inventing new ways of being for yourself that have you really loving your life. Because everybody (almost!) wants to be around people who are in love with their lives -- it is a huge turn-on.