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Originally Posted by Vee  I know the key to success is being happy and detach - but i just can't at the moment. There were numerous periods over the last couple of years where I was happy and comfy and those unexpected moments didn't happen - so what should i do? . . . .
How can I get out of this pit - i don't wanna get depressed. |
Here is the bottom-line secret about happiness; happiness is not a response to what happens out there -- happiness is a choice, pure and simple. So if you want to be happy, choose to be happy. If you choose happiness enough, you will be happy pretty much all the time, whether you get what you want or not.
It seems so simple, and yet it is true in every sense. So, choose today whether you will be happy or not. Count your blessings, perhaps; do you have clothes to wear? Do you have a home to live in? Do you have enough food to eat? Many in the world are happy, and have none of these things. How can they be happy with nothing, and you be unhappy with so much? I guess they choose happiness.
Most of us from Western European cultures have been marketed to our entire lives. Marketers teach us we must have something more to be happy, a new and bigger car, better job, nicer house, more attractive spouse. So we are taught to be needy from a very young age. The thing is, it is a lie. You don't need any of those things to be happy, and many people with all the success in the world are still
not happy.
So choose today, choose every moment. Find those things to think about that increase your joy; pet a dog, bake cookies, whatever works for you, and choose happiness. Where's the downside?
You might ask yourself the Q, iIf you are not choosing happiness, why not?
You know, if you got a lover and were unhappy (and believe me, one can be just as unhappy in a relationship as out -- perhaps more so), you'd have a lover and still be unhappy. Why wait until that time comes, just choose happiness now.
If you are looking for supportive evidence, there are books out there about the fact that happiness is a choice people make, and that people who choose happiness are happier. There may be some skills to be learned about making that choice that can be picked up from books, I don't know, but I have seen the books out there. . . . Anyway, I choose happiness today and just don't see any downside to that choice. Why don't you consider making that choice too?
Blessings from Belle
