 can men and women be friends?
I have/had a very close friend. Pretty much the only real friend. We lived together for a year and a half until he met a woman and I realized that the entire time I was lying to myself that we could just be friends. I wanted so much more from him, and he could never give it to me.
I moved out a month ago, and I find myself a much happier person now, but there are also those days (like today) when I just can't get away from the fact that I lost someone very important. We barely talk to each other now, but I think about him every day. Usually I don't let myself be down about it too much, but sometimes, like today, it just gets too overwhelming and painful to handle. So I started thinking that maybe I should stop talking to him altogether to allow myself to break free, heal and move on. On the other hand he was the only person who ever really cared about me and I am afraid it would destroy whatever is left of this friendship, and also, I don't really know if not talking to him is going to make any difference at all. Do space and time make a difference? Would we be able to be friends after that?
Did anybody have a similar experience? Can men and women be just friends if they were intimate at one point but then decided to end it and/or met somebody else?  |