Originally Posted by Nani
Thanks for the replies, everyone.
I was trying to take Steve's advice on working on yourself to see improvements in other people, but I may have been doing it wrong. Holistic Star, I never thought about the situation that way. I'm not sure what the addiction of mine could be, but I think it might be the internet as I do spend a big bulk of my time online...
I don't want to change anyone against their will, which is why I figured doing it indirectly was a great idea.
NickW, in my case I want to change my brother in his smoking habits because it's unhealthy. There's no benefit at all to smoking and he knows that, and he's expressed a desire to quit but just can't seem to do it. I'm not annoying him about it or forcing him to quit because I recognize it is his decision through and through, which is why this indirect approach of working on yourself and seeing others change accordingly appealed to me.
By the way, my brother does not smoke in the house, he smokes outside the balcony.
I'm going to lessen my time on the computer and see what happens.
Maybe you should tell him you don't like how he smokes. Then tell him the reasons why.
I don't believe the change you're talking about is one that is actually going to happen. The change steve talks about is spiritual change and one that change's YOUR lifestyle. Steve can't literally go over to someone and make them stop smoking (no one can =/). Bottom line is I think you should just talk to your brother about it and see what he says. Maybe you'll influence him in some way. Sorry to say but you can't literally change someone. I Wish it were possible but its not