We don't hate ourselves.
The problem is that we don't know who we are. We form some ugly, unsatisfactory image out of the thoughts and opinions we have of ourselves, and then we wish it were different.
So we do a little more thinking and we convince ourselves that we just need to add or subtract something to this image to make it something we love. Maybe find a loving girlfriend or boyfriend; or maybe just lose some excess weight... yes, then that image will be acceptable... right.
We look for others to confirm that our image is acceptable. We want compliments, love, affection, respect, fame, etc, to convince us that we should accept our opinions of ourselves.
We have to know the difference between our self image (which is always changing and will never be satisfactory) and our selves.
Only when you are able to identify your long-held opinions of yourself, and understand that those are exactly what you are NOT, will you begin to know who you are.
And trust me, once you glimpse it you will not be able to hate it if you tried.
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