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Originally Posted by xyz  Then RBC, you say
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It's also despicable how alot of men commit suicide because they feel so overwhelmed by a system that sucks them dry financially for spousal & child support and no one seems to take notice of the statistics that divorced men are dropping like flies.
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I will repeat the same things you are preaching to the women. Get up on your 2 feet and fight these suicidal tendencies. Don't hide behind the crutches of "system" and "social conditioning." Nobody has granted more rights to women on a platter. No one will grant you these rights as freebies. |
- The high rate of male suicide attempts & successes after divorce is attributed to the stress of trying to support themselves financially after they are sucked dry by alimony & child support payments and dealing with the stress of separation, divorce, limited access to his children and still working full-time to support his family.
I know personally of a friend that had 4 daughters and was married for 10 years to his wife. They divorced and he had to pay $400 per child in support every month along with $800 alimony monthly as well. $2400 per month in support payments, and I don't think he cleared more than $3200 per month (that's net after taxes, not gross) from his job. He was left to live on $800 per month - it was impossible for him to live, he tried fighting it, went back to court, pleaded his case and still never won. After legal fees, selling his family home, his vehicle, several months later the money was all gone, he felt he couldn't turn to anyone else and couldn't handle the poverty he was forced into. What he did to himself was horrible, he should have pursued counselling but in his mental state he wasn't thinking right. Now his young children have no father and they'll learn the story of what happened to him when they're adults. His ex-wife is extremely depressed about it too. At the time of divorce, she was extremely angry with him, she had committed adultery and although they tried to reconcile, the trust was gone and arguments filled up their daily interaction with one another. Thankfully he did have a life insurance policy that he had never changed the beneficiaries listed: his wife & children, so they still have some money while she attempts to get full time employment.
- He got up on his own 2 feet and then some, he worked hard to support his family. It broke his heart when his wife cheated on him but he still loved her and tried to make it work afterwards. He loved his children too. He became so depressed by the cheating, the separation, the divorce, the limited access to his children, the scheduled visitation and the stupid support payments that he couldn't handle his reality anymore. He felt his only release was to do the unthinkable. His spirit was broken, he felt he had no way to improve his situation and he was simply overwhelmed by the entire situation, the free counselling service that was provided by his employer didn't work, the anti-depressants didn't help and IMO probably made things worse for him.
He stood up on his 2 feet, he just felt that the weight of the world and his problems were too much to deal with and after a while he was brought down to his knees and couldn't deal with his life anymore - he believed he was a failure. I know he loved his girls very much and he also loved his wife very much too regardless of what she did (he also hoped she would change her mind, leave the other man and take him back), I just wish he had loved himself enough to ask for help before he did what he did.
This is an example from the male point of view on how divorce and it's effects are so harmful that the suicide rate attempts & successes are so high with divorced men. This isn't unique either.