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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  Wow! You (and Rose too) are so lucky to have this happen to you. |
Yes indeed I'm sooo very very lucky
This has been the most successful, powerful, harmonious and loving relationship I ever had. It was just ideal, perfect, amazing, wonderful. I've never experienced such a level of acceptance, freedom, communication and growth in a relationship before.
I felt entirely accepted just like I was and that's something I wasn't used to. Seeker never nagged at me or tried to change anything about me, unlike my past boyfriends. What a delight! I could also feel that he really wanted the best for me, he truly wanted me to be happy and to do whatever it was that I love doing. Till now in my family and relationships, others wanted me to do what they think is good (for me or for them?).
I was also free to do whatever I wanted, including dating other guys and leave at any moment. Same for him. That was so great. There was no possession, no jealousy, no fear, no obligation to write or call, nothing. Since we're both introverts, when one of us needed time alone for a while, he just said "we need a break" and the other one would answer "ok
" and we'd stop communicating with no clue about how long. As a result, we had a very unconstrained and romantic way to court each other relentlessly
What truly amazed me was how harmoniously we were able to communicate. There was just nothing we couldn't talk about. We had terrific conversations, and if one of us had a problem with our relationship, we'd just talk about it in a very respectful and loving manner. I knew he loved me and wanted the best for me even when we didn't agree, and after each solved conflict or deeper insight in the other one's personality, the bound grew even stronger. We had a big fight and managed to master even this like champions. There was just no problem we could not solve.
I loved that we were PD partners too. Alone in order to be with him, I had to address several of my issues about relationships or my body. Then every time something came up, we'd work that out together. We also shared our knowledge in PD matters, teaching each other useful stuff, since we had very different approaches on that. The whole relationship was a tremendous growth experience.
Even now we're going through the breakup process together, talking a lot about it, sharing our feelings, insights and tears, supporting each other and growing.
Seeker, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this wonderful experience and for everything you taught me.
I love you boy