ah that was maybe a personal thought from dating two guys with very different styles of showing their affection, the one very open and affectionate and the other very reserved/respectful; maybe I was reacting to you saying that the one girl seems more attached and therefore somehow deserves you more than the other one- what I should actually say is that there IS no way of really knowing what someone else is actually feeling, we can only react to their actions, and I think you're making a bit of an assumption to say because the one acts more attached that she really feels more deeply toward you, and another big leap to go from thinking someone loves you to that they DESERVE your love/commitment in return- maybe it just sounds to me like you're trying to convince yourself to be with one when intuitively you believe you should be with the other. I think our intuition does a better job of accurately imagining other's true emotions/motivations and sometimes there's no way to rationalize why we prefer one person over another, but I really think you need to spend time with them both until the "newness factor" wears off a bit, and really try to listen to your intuition about who, if anyone, you should commit to.
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