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Originally Posted by leetx  You know what I mean. The heart pumping feeling you get when u have to go up for a speech. The feeling you get when you look at a beautiful girl, you become self conscious, start blinking a lot, and hope people dont see your weakness.
I'm just wondering. Or is this all in my mind? |
I know just what you mean.
How do we get past this? How best to deal with this?
I think a degree of 'standing back' and just non-judgemental self observation can be very helpful. The more we put ourself in the kinds of situation that trigger these feelings, and can observe ourselves (thoughts, feelings, moods, what we say, everything about us), the better. The more experience we have, of being in uncomfortable situations, the better able we are to just be natural in such situations, in the future. So it's a learning process.
That's my take on it. Great thread idea though, and it's a real issue that affects most men (I think).