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Originally Posted by lightthecandle  I just want to get to the root of we so many people including myself hate themselves? and why people with circumstances ALOT worse, live happier, healthier lives?
I'm just asking because honestly, there was never a point in my life where I truly loved myself, and I'm in my 20s. I just want to love myself so that I can share my love with other people for example my lil sis, whom I'm so jealous of . and I want a boyfriend, but I know I'm not ready for one yet, because I hate myself so much, and they say you need to love yourself before you can be in a relationship |
how many adults much older than yourself ask the same question and never get the assistance to finding out the reason why.
Self-hate is dangerous and it's so pervasive, most everyone is affected by some form of self-hate (from the least amount of self-hate to a gross exaggeration of self-hate).
One thing to start at, you are fine the way you are.
Once you can accept yourself as you are, you will find that self-hate doesn't have as much material to work against you with, your ego won't have the ammunition it needs to allow you to continue hating yourself (or at least as much).
You're a good person, love yourself very much.
Religious or not, god placed in you an incredible amount of potential. You really are capable of a whole lot more than you're currently doing now in your life. He also didn't intend you or anyone else on this planet to live miserably and waste the life you have in your hands right now.
Press forward daily, look for areas of personal growth, see the good in things instead of focusing on just the negative. Get used to being positive, set up a list of all the good things in your life and read it everyday when you wake up, set yourself up into positive alignment with the good things in life and remember that you are a great person and you should definitely love yourself.
If you don't love yourself very much, you risk damaging any relationship you get into. Love yourself and you will be able to love other people properly, you will treat them the way you would want to be treated and you will treat yourself the way you want to be treated (very important).
Is there anything specific in your life which is pulling you down and making you feel unhappy, negative and poor about yourself & current condition? Let us know.
Take it easy and have a good day!
