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The Cloud · 04-23-2008, 06:46 PM

I'm 22 and have been single every single one of those years. It used to bother me a lot, to distraction in many cases. And in the end, I'm glad of it because it taught me that I can't look to other people for validation. If I wanted to be happy I had to be able to generate that myself without being a relationship-slave, however willing. It is possible.

I won't say it's easy, and I won't say that I'm perfectly happy, but I'm much much less hung up on being single and more able to pursue what I want instead of worrying about what I don't have. More importantly, I'm not dependent on a woman to make my life worthwhile.

P.S. I'm male, if you didn't figure it out already.

04-23-2008, 06:46 PM	#10 (permalink)
The Cloud Family Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 2,203	I'm 22 and have been single every single one of those years. It used to bother me a lot, to distraction in many cases. And in the end, I'm glad of it because it taught me that I can't look to other people for validation. If I wanted to be happy I had to be able to generate that myself without being a relationship-slave, however willing. It is possible. I won't say it's easy, and I won't say that I'm perfectly happy, but I'm much much less hung up on being single and more able to pursue what I want instead of worrying about what I don't have. More importantly, I'm not dependent on a woman to make my life worthwhile. P.S. I'm male, if you didn't figure it out already. Last edited by The Cloud; 04-23-2008 at 06:47 PM. Reason: Added P.S.