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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  How do you define 'by choice'? I would rather be in a relationship than be single, so I cannot very well claim to be single by choice.
I am single because of circumstance - the absence of someone who is both willing and able to be my partner and whom I would be willing and able to partner with. This circumstance does not make me unhappy. On the contrary, I am quite content with the life I lead and the choices I've made and would still be content if this path I'm on would imply being single for the rest of my life. My happiness is not circumstantial.
My feel was that the OP is also seeking this un-circumstantial happiness, rather than wanting to suppress his desire for a lil' bit of love... |
Yes, one doesn't need to be unhappy while being single. That would make the situation worse, in fact.
What I saying is that one doesn't necessarily needs a relationship to feel happy and contempt with life; yet, I see cases upon cases of men (and women) who are very, very frustrated (and that spreads to all the areas of their life).
Be happy when you are single; but don't give up on what you want.
That is it. Live you life to the fullest, and if the best vision of your life includes a relationship(s) then go and get it (nevermind the pain!).
That said, if the OP is simply trying to feel happy while being single, I say that the key aspect is getting out there and meet women, since you know you're actually doing something to move forward towards what you want. After that, is the cliché answer: find your passion, work on it like hell, get busy, smile more often, think positive.
Hope this sheds some light.