Originally Posted by robc
When you say he would know you are lying, that's the part you have to convince yourself of.
Since you are already looking your best, try another approach, how about a different look from what he's accustomed too. Another thing, don't tell him about the other "guy" yet but do the following: go out a few times during the next couple of weeks during times when you would normally be going out with him. If he asks (or it sounds like tells) you to go out to a movie or out to eat at some time that you normally would do something together, just tell him that you have unfortunately made other plans with a friend but don't mention the name of the friend even if he asks, just say it's someone he doesn't know. I'm afraid of the anger part that you mentioned, I hope he isn't physical with you, if so call the cops immediately, love or not.
Anyways go out a few times during the next few weeks, dress up really nice, do the hair & makeup thing but go out to a movie with a girlfriend or go out to the bar but don't tell him where you are going or who you are going with.
Do this a few times and then when he really starts to press you for some answers, then lay the line to him that you are seeing another guy and you are trying the "polyamorous" thing yourself. But you are right though, you have to half believe it yourself if you want him to believe it.
hello again, Rob! thank you again for keeping up with me. i can see that this will not be easy at all, but i am going to try. i have a really bad feeling about this, but what have i got to lose? i am not good at playing games, though, and it makes me feel a bit sick. then again, so does this whole situation.
wish me luck.