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Originally Posted by Vasilisa  But if everybody was happy when a woman stayed at home - a husband was coming home to a clean and nice house, hot dinner, kids were raised by Mom, not by some kind of facility - who are we to judge?
Why do you think that taking care of the house and kids is less work than holding a job? A woman can be a responsible adult and a full-time Mom at the same time.
Yes, STUFF costs money, but some people choose well-being of their kids over stuff.
And if a woman has ,say, 3 or 4 kids - she should go and work any way, just so her kids could have more stuff?
And in full honesty I disagree with all this equality stuff. Men and women are equal as human beings but not the same. Women are weaker physically and do not have men's stamina, and do not have that much drive for climbing up the social ladder; but they are stronger in social relationships, able to be more compassionate and multitask. |
nobody says it isn't a hard job but in the end you are making that decision to stay at home. No one is holding you at gun point and forcing you to stay at home to do this work. And the reality is that in most home, both partners work and the house is still maintained.
As for the 3 or 4 kids and getting the kids more stuff, I'm not a slave to material possessions and I don't spoil my kids although they have plenty. If you are slave to material possessions and need to have more stuff, go to work, earn the money to buy more "stuff".
As for the women being physically weaker, that's a tough call. I think overall you may be right but I know alot of women who can hold their own against many men so I'm not too worried about that. As for drive in climbing the social ladder, I'm sorry to call you on that but I think you're wrong, I think women have just a strong a drive to climb that social ladder (or corporate ladder if that's what you were referring too), many women can & do attain jobs that alot of men would wish for.
FYI - men can be just as compassionate and can multi-task very well also. That is just a stereotype. As far as the compassion, since 70-75% of divorces are initiated by women, how compassionate could this group of divorcees possibly be. Also since the divorces are for the most part being initiated by women, they aren't choosing the well-being of their children, most children would want their parents to stay together. And recent studies (including longest study completed in north america on this subject) show that there adverse effects on children who have divorced parents, more so than children who live in homes where their parents don't get along.
All I'm saying is that spousal support is a very old idea whose time is passing, the courts are now very careful not to provide lengthy spousal support arrangements. This isn't the 50s, 60s or 70s where stay at home spouses were very common. It's 2008 nearing the end of the 1st decade of the new millenium, it's time for equality to really mean equality and having to be an adult and support yourself when you want out of a marriage.