Originally Posted by Faye
... he would get mad at me if i don't work out and don't try to look my best, so unfortunately that is already the case. i would not want to embarrass him.
God, Faye, each new thing you tell us about him makes him sound more and more awful! You are in love with this guy? Don't answer that, I know, you're in love with him, you've got your reasons. From an outsider's perspective, though, I'd just like you to know how really NOT a loving, long-term mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR) this is. I am saying this to you because it took a girlfriend telling me, in my similar situation, just how hideously I was behaving by handing my power, my choices, my personality, and my responsibility over to a man before I took a bold look and realized how I was stinking up my own life.
And all your "yeah,buts" all add up to "Yeah, but I LOVE HIM!!!!" (which is the chorus of what I call the Chicken Opera, and lots of us have sung it!
Just because you love someone, though -- even if it's A LOT -- that doesn't necessarily mean you're good partners together. Good LLTMBR partners help each other feel better, in every possible way. Does Mr. Menage do that for you?