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Originally Posted by YourSelf  ...and if you do think you are gay but don't like to be you can change it  (if you want to). |
Really now? Because I tried for 8 years to force myself to be straight, and it never took. I tried convincing myself that I liked girls instead of guys, or that I might even be bisexual. I tried religion. I tried counseling. Nothing worked. And I finally realized that I shouldn't be ashamed to be gay--that if I'm gay, it's not a bad thing...and that I shouldn't HAVE to try to change, that I shouldn't have to try to be someone or something that I'm not just because of societal pressures.
Furthermore, from what I understand, the American Psychological Association takes the professional stance that sexual orientation CANNOT be changed, and any attempts to do so are only destructive in nature, and based on long-standing and archaic societal and religious prejudices. You don't get to choose to whom you feel sexually or emotionally attracted. You don't choose who gives you a boner and who doesn't--it just happens. If you COULD choose, then adultery wouldn't be a problem, because everyone could just consciously choose to only feel sexually attracted to their spouse, switching everyone else in the world to the binary "off" position in regards to sexual attraction, which would eliminate the temptation to commit adultery.
But VaderJam: If you're gay, don't sweat it too much--that doesn't make you a bad person. If you're straight, don't sweat it too much--not having been in a relationship yet doesn't make you a bad person, either. Just because you haven't been in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex yet doesn't necessarily mean that you're gay. The ONLY way to tell what your sexual orientation is is to throw away all stereotypes and preconceived notions that the world holds about sexual orientation and answer one simple question: Do you like dick, snatch, both, or neither? Answer yourself honestly, and you'll find out if you're gay, straight, bi, or asexual. None of the results is better or worse than another, just like having green-colored eyes is no better or worse than having blue-colored eyes. It's just idiots that make a big deal out of it and try to make you feel like less of a human being just for being different than them, and you can ignore them.