Originally Posted by uberinquisitive
You already know the "right" choice for you. But - you're afraid to take it.
Why? You claim it's out of love for him, and I believe you. I believe you truly love this guy - you're not trying to change him. But the real question is: do you love yourself? Because you're trying to change yourself.
Ultimate question: if you don't love yourself, then is what you give to him really love? Or is it just fear, clinging, and neediness?
there are plenty of things that i dislike about myself, and i have my share of issues. i have never thought of myself as 'giving' him fear, clinging, or neediness. he keeps whatever distance he pleases and i do not make demands of him, however i may feel. i do not think that i impose those things upon him. i am good at keeping control of myself. i do have those things at times, though.
your questions have made me feel a bit worried now.