if you're last couple relationships have been very similar, particularly in an abusive and emotionally unavailable way, I highly recommend taking a good hard long look at your past, your upbringing, and your relationship patterns.
I know that lesson very well and I'm still learning it. when we repeat the same kinds of unhealthy relationships over and over and repeatedly fall in love with the wrong kind of people, there is an unhealthy part of ourselves unconsciously guiding our decisions and attractions because of our past.
we attract emotionally unavailable and unhealthy people because we are emotionally unavailable and unhealthy ourselves. it's the only kind of relationship that's familiar to us so it feels "right". until we understand our emotional baggage, the patterns will continue.
if this sounds like it applies to you, here's some links I found useful.
Choosing Intimate Partners: To Repeat or Not to Repeat? < an article written by somebody who posts here. very insightful.
Abundant Spirituality + codependency recovery + inner child healing = Joy2MeU