Well, how do you feel about granting her (and you) the freedom to be exactly who you are and exactly who you are not? Including giving yourself permission to really dive into your anger, to feel it rather than resisting it, to trust it to give you the right message?
How do you feel about deliberately thinking thoughts that have you feeling just a little bit better.... and get you on an upward spiral. I don't know what that will be for you, but how about
: "I found in this relationship that I have tremendous capacity for love and commitment. Although Brunhilda wasn't in the same place, that doesn't diminish my love and my power. We're both doing the best we can, and I'm building the power now to generate a really loving long-term mutually beneficial relationship (LLTMBR) with the right woman, when the time comes. I'm preparing myself to be the best possible partner for a woman who is preparing herself right now to be the best possible partner for me. I'm looking forward to meeting her and sharing a life filled with growth, love and freedom, and I trust that we'll meet at exactly the right time of readiness for us both."
...... or something.
