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Originally Posted by Real Subliminal  To quote you:
"Instead of starting with wanting a million dollars, start with
believing you are a millionaire. How does a millionaire think? What
does a millionaire do? The process of learning the millionaire mindset
would come through normal lines of investigation, but eventually your
reality would conform to what you believe."
I truly believe confidence is the same. If you act confident, people will view you confidently, and eventually you really will be confident.
Think of the analogy of the energetic toddler who is full of confidence - his confidence is not ego based (based, on knowledge, success, or achievement etc), but simply based on natural self esteem. A toddler is not afraid of social boundries, not afraid to speak his mind, not afraid to interact socially etc.
As we age then our egos come into play, and we are aware of how other people view us, and our confidence will be shaped more by our egos... to be really confident you need to let go of your ego - not be worried to voice your opinion in fear of if you will be accepted for example.
There does not have to be a reason for confidence, simply value yourself as a human being, speak your mind because what you have to say is worth listening to, walk tall, and act confident, and eventually this behaviour will be second nature to you, you will be "naturally" confident again.
Dan |
Thanks, Dan. God forbid I take my own medicine
I like your analogy. Perhaps it could be said that the ego is nothing more or less than the conditioning that has been programmed into us by experience/family/society. That would explain why we do not have one from birth (or, at least, not an active one).
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Originally Posted by maxdof Read the Seven Habits of Stephen Covey and apply the first one, Be Proactive.
You can read Neil Strauss too. |
Neil Strauss... one of my top ten favorite books of all time. I was just downloading some seduction material. It's been a while since I was into all that. I've been going back to it because it motivated me to become a better person.
Thanks for the suggestion.