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Originally Posted by YourSelf  Have you ever noticed that some people really enjoy telling things about you to others, even if you don't want such things to be public (and sometimes even tell them that it ought to stay secret)?
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The reason that companies with secret recipes and secret codes reveal them only to a few (very few) "trusted" top employees, and then make them sign secrecy contracts and take oaths that leave them nauseous, is because humans cannot be trusted with a secret unless they are threatened with dire consequences. The human ego feeds on significance, and one of the best forms of having that significance is knowing you know something someone else doesn't. So to answer your question, they are meeting their need for significance when they talk about something you told them not to. But why would you tell someone something you felt shouldn't be known by other people, unless you yourself needed to feel significant by revealing it to that one person?
At any rate, you can't control what comes out of other peoples' mouths, and telling people things that you don't want known only serves to make you feel anxious wondering if they are actually going to tell. But then again, maybe you could just adopt the attitude that if people find out what you are trying to hide from them, it's no big deal. Which, at the end of the day, it really isn't. Unless you make it so.