[Bitsy]

These things are very simple. The saying is not "Worry about and adjust your behavior according to what you think everyone else wants done unto them because if they follow the Golden Rule they will do that unto you". It is very simply "Treat others as you want them to treat you" or as you would want to be treated. It's that plain and simple, period, not a word more and not a word less. It's is not rocket science, so it ought to be easy to understand for everyone. You don't worry about others or what they are doing, you be responsible for you and that's all, don't harm others or do things that will harm them. It's really not an intellectual exercise to understand the "Golden Rule."

As for the adultery and polyamory example, it's also very simple--if you are betraying their trust, it is wrong. If you are weaving a web of lies to protect your interests with you wife, or wives, or anyone else, whatever the case may be, it's wrong. These dark things are wrong imo and they bring a very sinister feeling that I don't want ever want to feel firsthand.

The fact is, once upon a time, humans were born with a wonderful thing called a conscience. The conscience was the gauge that told us when we were doing something wrong in each given situation. Nobody had to ask or think "right or wrong" and then try to provide evidence in defense of the very existence of the concept of right and wrong or debate about the "right or wrongness" of some form of adultery in one of an infinite number of partnership situations. You knew if something was wrong when you were considering doing it, you knew when you were about to give in to some indulgence or desire if it would hurt someone close to you and you didn't even have to call it wrong, it was just a feeling and you knew you shouldn't do it, even if it was something very, very small.