Originally Posted by PianoManGidley
I don't think people who label themselves as not being very social are saying that they aren't social whatsoever--just that they aren't as outgoing as most other people. And that can come from a variety of things. For me, for example, I was teased a lot as a kid growing up for my social awkwardness, my weight, my appearance--anything and everything, really--and I took it to heart and believed that no one really enjoyed my presence, so I became withdrawn and wasn't very outgoing in the real world until I got to college. I found that communicating online was a lot easier for me because I feel that I'm generally more eloquent in writing than in speech, and because I don't have to physically look at someone. When people look at me, part of me still fears that they're judging me negatively...and looking someone directly in the eyes is hardest, because I feel that if they're looking back at me in my eyes, they're able to search inside me to find something they can use to destroy me. Very paranoid, I know, and I've gotten better about it, but this is what bullying can do to people growing up.
Wow,you just described me to a T! I was also picked on as a child/junior high/high school,even AFTER that...so thats why i dont feel right when talking to people cuz i feel like they're always judging me and are just about ready to say something to ridicule me. I mean,i even get it STILL to this day,from people who are older than me even! Why do people have to pick on others?! I've been told i'm easy and fun to pick on,but i HATE it! I get MAD inside but of course i don't act that way to them. So yeah...i would love to be more social but i can't because i still get picked on,even at age 35!! Isnt it sad how society does this to us?