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Originally Posted by Spartan  Also, just wondering what it is about younger men that you older women like?
Are you trying to recapture moments of your youth, so you can feel young and desirable again? (Not saying you aren't desirable, so don't flame me lol)
Or Perhaps you feel that you missed out when you were young, and want to make up for that now?
Or maybe you want to be like a mother figure to them, and help guide them into maturity?
Or perhaps you just like their fit young bodies?
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Hum,
I am not trying to recapture moments of my youth because my youth S*cked. I didn't like my 20s and started getting into my own skin around 30+. I find myself more desirable and attractive now than I ever was in my 20s. I would agree that the attention of a young man is flattering, but it might be the way they convey their attention that makes it so.They tend to be more direct and less afraid of saying nice things.
I don't feel like I had much of an adolescence or a time of my oung adult life when I was carefree, so yes, one could say I missed out.
I don't see it that way because I feel that this experience gave me the ability to enjoy things to the fullest in the present moment.
I do not take happiness for granted and will squeeze every moment of joy and pleasure out of every opportunity.
I don't want to be a mother to anyone, but it's nice to be able to be nurturing without being pushed away, though I don't think accepting to be nurtured is necessarily related to one's age.
As far as young hot bodies, it's nice, but not something I seek as much as vitality, and ability and desire to please.
As a huge generalization, based on my personal experience, I find younger men more hopeful and optimistic.
Men my age act like they re old.( again, it's been my experience)
They seem to think 40 is the end and I think it's just the beginning.They seem to have no time or energy because they have already been tired up by a prior marriage, fatherhood and/ or a string of relationships that took up their love energy, or they devoted their time to a job that took all their life force away, and now they are the" bald men in the Porshe rushing home to watch t.v"( I have nothing against bald men).
I am still waiting for the love(s) of my life and have plenty of energy and desire towards being with this( these) person (s).
I am attracted to people who are turned on and can be committed as in "engaged", not as in counting the number of years or months they've been compromising their true selves to be able to wave a piece of paper in front of the world.( Again, highly personal and possibly biaised and naive view).
Also, I love to go out. I enjoy partying and am not through being social and enjoying the world. Even though I can be very quiet and enjoy intimacy at home. I don't like cocooning and do not find it attractive to hold someone's hand in front of a t.v screen.
I find curiosity and people who have passions and pursue them very attractive. It is not always the young who go for what they love, but it takes twice the energy and optimism to do so later in life.
Last but not least, I think younger men have more of a chance to have been raised by a strong, independent woman and might be more accepting of that sort of woman.
They might not be as protective and reassuring as men in their 40s and over, but they seem less patronising.
This said, I am not on the lookout for younger men, but it just so happens that they are desirable because they are the ones who are most likely to be unattached and single.
I would also agree that someone being into personal development like the lovely people of this forum, would not be "old" as in tiring and boring.