You have a lot going on, and because of that, it may be useful for you to look at what you can and can't control in your life. You cannot change your families opinions, prejudices, and patterns, but you can change your own.
Although you love your sister, you should not enable her behavior. You do have control over her and the animals being in your living space. You are not doing her any favors by allowing her to not work and earn her own way in the world! It doesn't sound as if she respects you much as she has been with you for 6 months already with no plans to get a job. Lay down some rules: tell her what you expect of her. Give her a timeline. Put it in writing, and stick to your guns if she doesn't follow through.
Set some bottom lines in your own life about what kind of behavior you will and won't accept from members of your family. Spend the majority of your time with people who offer you positive relationships. |