I've written about a young man I met in a Dream once who was murdered in revenge of a rape he had committed when he was 18 years old.
When I took him to the Light to cross over, he ran away; either out of shame or fear, I'm not sure, but he didn't cross over.
I only hope I was able to help him release some of the anger he had prior to our meeting. Somehow, I feel like shame and guilt are at least a little closer to being able to forgive yourself because at least that is self-directed. At that point you can realize your ownership of an issue.
I've tried to reach out to him since, but I've not had any luck. I pray for him often though and hope that his Guides and Allies are working through it with him.