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Originally Posted by missing  If not for the US military, you'd all be speaking arabic and finding out what real female oppression is like. |
First, that's a really sensational statement for which I don't see a basis in fact.
Second, just because worse oppression exists somewhere else in the world, doesn't mean anyone should just lay down and accept "lesser" oppression in their own sphere.
But again, I'm going off topic. I think that if Amadeus is not happy about his impending divorce and the possiblity of being called a deadbeat dad that he can do a couple of things: try to really understand his wife's reasons for initiating the divorce (not the reasons he "knows" but the real reasons -- using NVC would probably be useful) and see if he is able to remedy any of them that relate to him; make a commitment to his daughter to be as involved as possible in her life; working within the legal system to protect his rights as a father (even though it has never sounded like his wife intends to try to restrict his time with her, etc.).
I don't think that he will just get lumped into the deadbeat dad category simply by virtue of being divorced. It's his responsibility to see that his relationship with his daughter remains intact. Since he seems to be amicable with his wife I would encourage him to talk to her about the importance of his role and how dedicated he is to being an excellent father. It seems she'd support and encourage this.