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Originally Posted by Kura Ookami  If I'm at about a 1 out of 10 in self-esteem and self-discipline where do I begin? Can I even begin to achieve what some of you have managed to accomplish? |
I used to be there so I know how it is. You're doing the first step correct - you're asking the right questions. From where you are, here is something I did that helped me get started to help me elevate my self discipline and self esteem from a 1 to much higher.
I started by making and keeping promises to myself. I bought a little notepad, and the game I played was this: I had to make one simple little promise every 24 hours to myself. Then, that promise had to be completed within 24 hours. I would write the promise down, the date and time I made the promise in my little notebook that I carried around. Then I would write down when the promise was accomplished. As soon as one promise was accomplished, I would write down the next promise, and once again, have 24 hours to accomplish it. The goal would be to finish 100 promises in a row without fail. If I failed in not doing the promise within 24 hours, I would start back on promise 1. When I would accomplish 100 promises in a row that I would celebrate with a gift.
The promise would be something simple like "I will do my laundry", or "I will buy grocery", or "I will call so-and-so", or "I will walk for 5 minutes", or "I will clean my car", etc. Simple things like that that I would normally have procrastinated forever. These may seem simple to do, but when we have very little self-discipline, these things can be quite hard, and near impossible to do in a timely manner. However, with this game, it became fun to do. On some of my days off, it'd be fun to see if I could make 5-6 promises and accomplish them! I'd get such a great feeling of being satisfied and my self-esteem started going up. I began to build my proactive muscles and it helped tremendously in getting me out of the huge hole I had gotten myself into as I started being able to take proactive steps.
Of course, it's not the one and ultimate solution to get yourself from a 1 to a 10 in self discipline and self esteem. However it's the first step for someone at your level. I know it sure helped me get started.