Thank you again. At this point I'm open to any suggestion that involves a way to diffuse the anger and hopefully reach her. I just don't think I can walk out on them at this time, I think it would do more damage to everyone else than it would help me just yet.
Ulterior motives, hmmm. Wouldn't that be a kick in the head if he was just as manipulative as the people who drive both of us nuts?

Kind of like the classic abuser who starts out being so attentive and then gradually isolates as he transforms into someone else....yikes.
Not liking that idea much, but it makes sense.
OMG, I just read the symptoms of RAD, and that is her, to a T. THANK YOU! Something to discuss with the therapist.