[Freelancer]

Hey beautiful people! :-)

I have a few problems/questions I've run into while I've been trying to polarize as a lightworker. Brace yourselves for a few questions! :-)

The lightworker is motivated by their compassion/service to other people, but here are a few probs and questions I've got.

Ohhh I can help here *bounces up and down* yeyh.

Prepare for massive overload of information, I've got some spare time.

Down to the nitty gritty part of it (slightly more serious even):

-Being a Isn't it detrimental to keep giving your self to others when they take advantage of you? It's also hard feeling love for someone when they treat you like that (or you let them by giving your power away to them). How do you know when to stop trying and let go?

Wow relax, I can count 4 questions bundled into one here. Let me see if I can answer them all in order.

Alright, detrimental giving yourself to others:
Ok, let me start at the beginning, where does compassion arise from? It doesn't exactly just pop out (or does it ay? oh dear paradox I love thy) right?
Compassion basically comes from understanding, if you realize why people act the way they act then compassion will come much more naturally. You see most people live in a almost dream like world full of little fears, nuisances and frustrations. They will rarely admit this because the whole act of admitting it would negate most of there act to the outside world.
Most people are pushed back and forth because of circumstances, they have no real control over them.


This is a very fundemental aspect of lightwork, understanding other people and the world around you. How the world works, how it operates and you quickly move into deep spiritual practices which is way way way beyond this post. Anyway from this understanding you stop trying to please everybody's little petty ego's and you start reaching out to there 'higher selves' (god, holy spirit, The Now, buddha nature, whatever) instead. At this point you literally transcend power games and it becomes incredibly difficult to deceit you. After all when you can understand somebody then you can quickly pinpoint when they try to take advantage of you. At this point its detrimental for BOTH to allow this to happen. The person in question will dig himself deeper into a identity crisis (everyone wants to be the good guy and you have to toss and turn in some pretty awkward positions to justify 'stealing') and you get taken advantage of (which ain't always a bad thing).

This ain't a easy path to take, the darkworker path is probably easier in that you need to worry a whole lot less about other people. The problem arises that you need to be incredibly careful that you don't dig yourself into a very VERY nasty hellhole.

Alright next part, giving your power away. I can be quick about this. NEVER EVER GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY. There done.

A lot of life is letting go, ain't it lovely?
Let go of work and start to play.
Let go of seriousness and start to learn.
Let go of life and start to live.
Let go of attachment and start to love.
Quite paradoxical at times.

- Pleasing others at the expense of self - When refusing to please someone because it goes against what you believe or how you feel, it can breed resentment (bruises their ego and then they bruise yours). How do you do it but still keep your compassion for them? (Because compassion is what powers a lightworker right?)

Alright, first of all if it bruises there ego's so be it.
If they can't handle growth so be it.
If they can't handle honesty so be it.
If they can't handle integrity so be it.
Don't comprimise your own value's and believes for a small and petty little ego of theres (or your own).

Compassion is NOT trying to avoid bruising ego's. It usually ends up being about bruising ego's in a good way, by speaking to the best inside them. By adressing that we all share.

I feel like I'm preaching, if I am just tell me to shut the **** up, I do this as much to clarify it to myself as I do it to help you.
(no I've got no idea whether I'm a dark or lightworker, frankly I don't really care)

- Because the lightworker places emphasis on making adifference to others, I've found that it makes my happiness dependent on others being happy with me. If the emphasis is on others, how do you keep your happiness independent whether others are happy with you?

You don't help people by feeling unhappy, it only hurts them. So don't do it.

- How do you express anger as a lightworker? It's very hard to be powered by compassion when I'm angry, it totaly knocks out my compassion for the person!

Feeling angry and feeling compassionate at the same time is not possible, sorry.
You can feel compassionate and EXPRESS anger. Think about that one for a while and why you'd want to do that.

- And the biggest - The subjectve reality mindset of relationships with people. I assume that this is the lightworkers most powerful tool because it really helps us connect with others. But I struggle with it. You know in Steve's article 'soulful relationships' it says that by recognising that we're all connected, you can mentally connect with and read other people, literally sharing the same thoughts. But how do you know when you're really connecting and seeing things from how they see it, as opposed to just forming an opinion as to what they're feeling? How do you know when you're not being delusional and getting it completely wrong? (I did this when I tried to help some of my family and friends-got it totally wrong! :-) - at least that's what they told me) There's no real way of knowing is there? But then how does Erin read people so well?

I have no clue, its most likely a skill that will grow with time as you gain more understanding. Perhaps Erin is just a natural. And perhaps I'm just babbling out loud here because I've got no clue.

It's kinda hard to polarize as lightworker with all these things confusing me. It also leaves me feeling disconnected from people when I don't understand them and vice versa, making it much harder to be fully compassionate with htem. Any feed back is more than welcome and appreciated.

Try and unify both darkworking and lightworking, gets even more confusing.