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Originally Posted by NDavid  Hey beautiful people! :-)
I have a few problems/questions I've run into while I've been trying to polarize as a lightworker. Brace yourselves for a few questions! :-)
The lightworker is motivated by their compassion/service to other people, but here are a few probs and questions I've got.
-Being a Isn't it detrimental to keep giving your self to others when they take advantage of you? It's also hard feeling love for someone when they treat you like that (or you let them by giving your power away to them). How do you know when to stop trying and let go?
- Pleasing others at the expense of self - When refusing to please someone because it goes against what you believe or how you feel, it can breed resentment (bruises their ego and then they bruise yours). How do you do it but still keep your compassion for them? (Because compassion is what powers a lightworker right?)
- Because the lightworker places emphasis on making adifference to others, I've found that it makes my happiness dependent on others being happy with me. If the emphasis is on others, how do you keep your happiness independent whether others are happy with you?
- How do you express anger as a lightworker? It's very hard to be powered by compassion when I'm angry, it totaly knocks out my compassion for the person!
- And the biggest - The subjectve reality mindset of relationships with people. I assume that this is the lightworkers most powerful tool because it really helps us connect with others. But I struggle with it. You know in Steve's article 'soulful relationships' it says that by recognising that we're all connected, you can mentally connect with and read other people, literally sharing the same thoughts. But how do you know when you're really connecting and seeing things from how they see it, as opposed to just forming an opinion as to what they're feeling? How do you know when you're not being delusional and getting it completely wrong? (I did this when I tried to help some of my family and friends-got it totally wrong! :-) - at least that's what they told me) There's no real way of knowing is there? But then how does Erin read people so well?
It's kinda hard to polarize as lightworker with all these things confusing me. It also leaves me feeling disconnected from people when I don't understand them and vice versa, making it much harder to be fully compassionate with htem. Any feed back is more than welcome and appreciated.
End rant :-)
NDavid |
My advice is to ignore the concept of polarization altogether. There are countless others on this forum who agree with me as well.
However, if you're totally committed to sticking to this course, my secondary advice would be to move up the levels of consciousness without polarizing much further than you are now, and only then polarize at the point where you have to.
In simple terms, focus on expressing more love every day, and less fear every day. Regardless whether you love yourself or others (darkworker or lightworker). For example, lets say that you are going to dedicate 1 hour per day to this pursuit. You can just as equally go out and volunteer in a soup kitchen to help feed the starving (help world) as you can spend that 1 hour improving the health of your individual body by exercising for 30 minutes and meditating for 30 minutes, or taking a Yoga class for 1hour/day (help self) type of thing.
Just focus on expressing love like that, regardless of who you express it to, and one day when you reach a level where polarizing is required, you'll know the path anyways.
I think right now, worrying about polarizing is kind of like worrying about what brand of oil you should put in a Ferrari when you don't even own a Ferrari. Yes, it's nice to know what brand of oil Ferrari's take, but really does it matter if you don't even own one? And even if you do own one at some point in your life, will it even matter then? If you can afford a Ferrari, why not just get someone else to do the oil change? I know my analogy is kind of off the wall, but I think it may illustrate the point.