[ladonna]

i've been married for going on 18 yrs. my husband is a great person, great husband and father. sometimes he's too great, and its hard for me to believe that he is doing things just to be nice. i've recently encountered a couple of messages from old friends of his (female) he feels he likes to keep in touch with all of his old friends, cause that is what they are, just friends. he went on a business trip and took out a couple of female friends from high school for drinks told me about it and expects me not to be upset. he told me if i were there, which i didnt want to go on this business trip, i would have gone out with them too. he has never given me any reason to doubt his friendships with these people, but its hard for me to get past it and quit obsessing over it. if he talks to women from his past, am i suppossed to ignore it and move on? my parents broke up after 30yrs of marraige because my dad was cheating on my mother. i need help getting over the constant accusing him of things he is not doing.