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Originally Posted by Cran  And what is wrong with success? But of course, success is not "objective", you'll have to define it your yourself. But in college, nobody forces you to take part in cheating and that success-mindset you describe. YOU decide you cannot study without taking part in it, not college. YOU put that pressure on yourself by buying into this mindset (this sentence is probably invalid, but I hope the meaning is clear). Why should a bad grade in a voluntar math course be a stumbling stone for your future? I think you're not completely honest with yourself here.
And how are you going to earn a living? It is usus that most jobs for un- or lowqualified people get less pay than others jobs, that equals more working time, leaving less time for your personal goals. Realistically, you'd probably have more time for such things as getting basic skills in math while at college than in a low-paid job. |
I totally agree: The institution itself is not dysfunctional, but the pressure and false belief that the institution is the one and only place your child can be free or successful is.
Anyway, as far as making a living - I am fortunate to run a company at the moment that makes ~100,000/year before taxes. It doesn't have to be a stumbling block, as you are saying - but colleges often don't leave much avenues for improving your grade and if your goal is to go to medical school - then your grades have to be top-notch. Of course, this is why students aiming for such a goal should take the proper avenues within the system to ensure that they indeed succeed.
And absolutely nothing is wrong with success, my rant was merely about the view that success is all there is - which is something that caused much suffering for me for practically my whole life until I started examining my thoughts, rather than simply believing them to be who I am.
Please note, I am not attacking the institution - and as stated - I think college works well for some people - here's something that I wrote:
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The word education may bring different feelings to everyone. For some it may be a period of intense joy and self-discovery, where through the process of learning one may become closer to his true reality. For others it may be a fearful experience of utmost dread, where such beliefs may enter the unconscious ego: "One day - this will all be over." Which best describes your relationship to education? Once we bring the focus of awareness onto anything - it will dissolve miraculously and quickly. So, if you find yourself with a fearful relationship to education - that's okay. Luckily, that's all that is false within you - and once you take the small step of acknowledging awareness - you will take realize that true education, true purpose, true love comes not from what you are doing, but from the loving tenderness that flows into what you are doing. Eckhart Tolle likes to call it presence, but it really is just a sense of alert awareness of present-moment joy.
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I simply want to take one year off to develop basic working habits and receive a better foundation in mathematics and other sciences. In high school, I was mostly studying to pass tests and developed great test-taking strategies but not memory strategies. I recently just started learning about Link, chaining and etc through "The Memory Book," which Steve recommends and for me - these skills are essential in order to function well in the institution.