As long as you're focusing on how guys are thinking about how you look, you are naturally going to steer things in that direction. Whether through body language, innuendo, or other more blatant means, you communicate what you are thinking about to the person you are conversing with. So as long as you are hung up on your looks, you are directing their attention toward that.
Of course, some guys just default to physical attributes, and that is something you're just going to have to deal with. I have a friend that has that problem, and her method is to basically make any guy that makes reference to her in a physical way feel very awkward by way of sarcastic nonchalantness. "Ok, uh, yeah, whatever." If it's sort of an innuendo that is clear in intent but not meaning, she will ask for clarification. This is a big ball buster, because most guys that make innuendo are doing so specifically to avoid being blatant. I'm not saying this is the perfect route, and I do believe that there are better ways of dealing with it, but that's my friend's method.
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