Sup blueberry?
I'm sure that you are beautiful. What's important is that you don't equate much if any value of your being to you having "good looks". I completely agree that our society is sick in the way we judge and set distinctions of ourselves. We look for differences instead of focusing on how we are similar - after all, we are all humans.
Please, always feel good about yourself because of who you are and the good decisions you choose to make. This is so important.
One suggestion I have for you in terms of how to handle guys who you are interested in friend-wise but not sexually is to go out with some other physically attractive girls and see how they let guys know that they are not interested. This might work if you go out with some girls who aren't looking for attention all night.
With the group of guys who seem to be only after sex, use your body language. They may be too dimwitted to pick up on it, but fold your arms, cross your legs and point your feet and body away from them. You can still be nice on the surface but sub-communicate through your body language that you have no interest.
I've been sitting here thinking about what else you could do to demonstrate you're only interested in friendship, or not interested at all with the horny hunters. I can't really come up with anything useful. Maybe if I got more sleep last night I could think of something, or if I was a girl. At any rate, the more social you become, the more interactions you'll have with guys, and the better you'll be able to handle these situations. Practice makes perfect...
Best of luck kiddo.
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