This is very true in my experience. When I first began posting here for guidance, I was so invested and involved in my PROBLEMS that no matter how logical or seemingly helpful some people's advice was, it did little more than give me an emotional fix. I was not yet ready to drink from the water,
even though I wanted enough to be enough. But obviously, looking back, enough wasn't enough at that point. I had to hit rock bottom within my dilemma to get deep enough inside the rabbit hole to let go of my old beliefs. All my efforts before that point were superficial.
I also agree about the tactic of asking the right questions. I think that's where other people can help the most. We're each on our own personal journey, with our own story, and our own truths. To simply be told what your story or truth should be is never enough. Nobody can define those things in your life except yourself. So asking the right questions, or opening a new line of inquiry or perspective about the issue
is what I found most helpful. It allowed me to step outside of my limited way of thinking about the issue, and look at it in a different light - yet,
with my own two eyes. 