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Originally Posted by Parthon  I looked up the definition on google.
Flirt:
1. To make amorous advances without serious intentions.
2. To treat lightly or flippantly.
I think that's pretty straight forward. 
Friendly banter, smiling, winking, waving, being nice, and touching lightly can all be considered forms of flirting, but I wouldn't consider them to be forms of seduction. I guess it all depends on how much importance you attach to flirting and seduction. |
Yeah, all of that doesn't mean you're intending to have sex with the person. If you're doing it with the intent to get something sexual going, then you're seducing, not flirting.
It's a measure of social intelligence and maturity to be able to tell the difference (both when you're the flirter/seducer or the flirtee/seducee, but some people do try to "cheat" and pretend like their flirting when they're really seducing or vice-versa, and that can be pretty awful. My impression is that Selmanito's girl is in that sort of "cheating" period, where's she wants to feel better about the "wrongs" men have done her by feeling her desirability without taking responsibility for how she engages the poor saps who fall for it. (that's just a guess, of course; I don't know this girl).
Selmanito, you could reclaim your power by recognizing that the girl is expressing her own old pain and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. If you were to get involved with her while she still in the process of working this through, you can expect to experience a whole lot of confusion and mixed messages. If you're feeling powerful and compassionate, go for it; but don't expect it to be a LLTMBR.*
*Loving, long-term, mutually beneficial relationship.