This is quite similar to my situation. I am what I think at the end of dealing with some problems that have persisted for a while in my life. I feel like I am growing into a stronger, more independent person than I was. I was seeing a therapist and what seems like my last meeting with him, made me realize that I need to spend time on my own for my own.
I told my boyfriend that I feel like I will do much better if I am not with him anymore. I want to feel like I have no one to fall back on to really be strong and deal with my life myself. We are having the similar problem everyone who grows out from their older self has. He doesn't see me the way I see myself. Reminds of the Steve Pavlina's article he sent me. I cant find it right now but it's called "Social drag" I think.
Fortunately, he has had a similar thing happen to him. He grew out of his old self and is now a different person from who is used to be. This is before I started seeing him so I am not sure how it feels to be in his shoes. But I am really glad that he understands. I knew that I should take time on my own and spend the energy working on my life but I didn't want to hurt an awesome relationship.
It made things a lot easier when he told me how me working on my life will only make our relationship better. We have a few issues to discuss brought on by some changes that happened really fast and then we are going on a break.
I have been feeling very courageous and genuinely happy ever since I realized that this is probably the end of it all.
It's funny though, I spent last night crying my eyes out about the problems that haven't been resolved yet with family and him. Doesn't make me feel good. I guess I need to take a step asap.
I am happy for you blueberry and uberinquisitive for stepping out and changing. It feels really good to be here, I wonder how it feels to continue to make progress. I am excited for life
