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Originally Posted by Vasilisa  Agnostic, that's exactly what Jamie is doing, but it doesn't help him to get rid of his anxiety around women. |
Yep, to a degree, I am. However, my own situation, isn't so simple.
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Originally Posted by Vasilisa In my opinion in order not to be worried so much in a particular situation a person should throw oneself in the situation inspite of fear over and over, learning from mistakes until anxiety faids. That's what I usually do. 
May be reminding oneself that it's just a learning process and any clumsiness and mistakes are allowed will help? |
Sure.
I think it's also a lot to do with beliefs.
I was out dancing tonight; and had maybe 3 dances with this woman I'm very strongly attracted to, I like her on so many levels, just about in every way. My ideal really. She's realy cheeky, naughty and fun with it.
In contrast, dancing with other women, there just isn't the same energy, or feeling, or heart-felt connection there. However, I can sense other women, getting quite frisky in my company, very close body contact etc. But without the 'feeling' bit, what's the point? Then I feel a little guilty for dancing close, because I don't want to lead her on.
I have loads of dances with lots of women, and it's such a wonderful (mutual) experience. However, while I'm so strongly attracted to this one women, it feels kinda futile that, I won't be open to other women. Even just for a s**g or something.
I guess, sometimes, everything just don't feel right. So I guess what I'm saying is that I didn't want to progress anything with the girl I was close dancing with because it wasn't what I wanted in my heart of hearts, the love wasn't there. I guess we need that, or it helps big-time, to have that heart connection, to really really want to be with someone, not just because they're there, but because you love them, like them, and want them completely.
*sigh*
Probably screwed up.