Agnostic, that's exactly what Jamie is doing, but it doesn't help him to get rid of his anxiety around women.
The thing is that most of us need social approval in one or another degree. And more than that anyone wants to have friends and lovers. Quality of life is not the same if we don't have anybody to hold our hand, to listen to us, to hug and to make love to.
Denying it is just trying to justify social anxiety and fear.
In my opinion in order not to be worried so much in a particular situation a person should throw oneself in the situation inspite of fear over and over, learning from mistakes until anxiety faids. That's what I usually do.
May be reminding oneself that it's just a learning process and any clumsiness and mistakes are allowed will help?