Here's my take on the nice guy issue, having recovered from being one:
Nice guys are socially anxious, especially around women. They base their self-worth (by itself a valueless concept) on what other people, especially women, think about them. This drains them of all sense of power and drives them into victimhood. They then begin hating the people whose approval they so desperately need, because they don't get it.
The cure is rather simple, once you understand it. Live your life for yourself. Don't care what other people think. Follow your idea of what you want your life to be and not other people's expectations.
Live an exciting and successful life on your own terms.
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