Hi Blueberry
It seems as though you have suddenly seen your old life for what it really was and have made radical changes to improve the situation in your relationship and other aspects of your life.
But whilst you have made these radical changes your boyfriend has been left standing still and wondering what on earth is going on. He remembers the old you and is left feeling unsure, not daring to trust the new you and remembering how things used to be. I can't tell you how this will end, but just remain honest and make all the changes that are right for you.
I made radical changes a few years back when I hit rock bottom in my eating disorder - binge eating disorder. I knew life had to change as it was literally killing me. But my husband found it very difficult in the first year as I suddenly seemed to become a different person. We are still together and have a brilliant life together but we have had to work through each of my changes and COMMUNICATE. There are still times when he expects me to act in my old ways and it really does take time for partners to realised we have changed. I've had to understand that and not get upset when he acts in the way he used to do. The essential thing is to keep talking to him, sharing what is going on with you and letting him talk about what it is like for him.
All the best
Alison |